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Best Sex Toys & Vibrators to Hit the Sweet Spot

Best Sex Toys and Vibrators to Hit the Sweet Spot

Self-love is the best kind of love. And while we love a self-care treat every now and then, there’s nothing *quite* like hitting your sweet spot. In our book, you come first and deserve sex toys to make yourself smile and help energise your body and mind. Whether you’re setting the scene for a night in to love yourself first, or heating up the love with something new, here are the best sex toys on our radar right now - plus the bedroom essentials designed to elevate your experience even more. What are you waiting for? It's playtime.

What triggers sexual pleasure?

Sexual pleasure is one of the greatest mysteries - and also one of the best. When it comes to what makes us feel good, we do know one thing: the feeling lasts way beyond a single moment. Whether you have an orgasm or not - with people or solo - our bodies release chemicals called endorphins that make their way around our bodies (and minds). That’s why you might feel more relaxed after enjoying pleasure the way you like it.

How to use sex toys

If you're wondering how to love yourself with sex toys or how to use a vibrator, we have the answers. It's all about using male or female sex toys in a fun and enjoyable way to enhance your sexual pleasures, whether you're using them alone or with a partner. Putting emotion in motion, they help you learn new things about your body - and your partner's. The couple that plays together, stays together, right?

Thinking of getting your first sex toy, but unsure where to start? Firstly you want to choose the right toy for you, ranging from vibrators - including ones designed for clitoral stimulation, internal stimulation, or both - to dildos to bondage gear. Consider what type of stimulation you're interested in and what kind of toy might provide that.

Our best piece of advice? Start slowly, especially if you're new to using pleasure toys and take your time getting used to the sensation. Begin with a lower intensity setting (if applicable) and gradually increase as you become more comfortable. And if you're using a sex toy with a partner? Communication is key. Discuss what feels good, what doesn't, and any boundaries or preferences you have.

Don't be afraid to experiment with different techniques, positions, or settings, either. But what works for someone else may not work for you, so explore and find what feels best for you. Pay close attention to how your body responds to the toy; if something doesn't feel right or becomes uncomfortable, adjust the intensity, motion, or stop using the toy and re-evaluate. After some trial and error, you'll find what brings you the most pleasure and comfort.

How to clean sex toys

Before using a sex toy for the first time, make sure to clean it according to the manufacturer's instructions. Most toys can be gently rinsed clean with warm water and mild soap (such as fragrance-free, antibacterial hand soap), and a clean cloth or towel, but some may have specific requirements. If your toy's battery-operated or rechargeable, remove or disconnect the power source or attachments before cleaning. We don't want those kinds of sparks.

Want to prolong the life of your toy? Proper cleaning and storage of your sex toy after each use will help. Pat your toy dry and let it air dry completely to prevent any bacteria growth. To store safely, keep your sex toys in a clean, cool and dry place away from direct sunlight and extreme temperatures. Many toys come with handy storage bags or cases, and you can buy dedicated toy cleaners like our Ann Summers one featured below. Don't worry, we've got you.

What is lube and how can it be used?

Lube, short for lubricant, is *the* sex toy product enhancement you need. Often a slippery or viscous substance, you can apply lube to body parts or objects to make them smoother and reduce discomfort during activities like sexual intercourse or masturbation.

Depending on the material of the toy and your own body's natural lubrication, you may want to use a water-based, silicone-based lubricant, or a hybrid which is usually a mix of water and silicone. Water-based are the most common type of lubricants compatible with most sex toys and condoms that can enhance pleasure during use. They're easy to clean and generally safe for most people.

Silicone-based lubricants have a thicker, longer-lasting formula compared to water-based lubes. While not compatible with silicone-based sex toys, as they can degrade the material over time, they're great for activities in water (like in the shower or a hot tub), as they don't wash away easily.

Want to add a fun element to intimate activities? Flavoured lubricants are the way to go. Typically water-based lubes, these come in various flavours designed for oral sex. Some lubes also have special additives that create warming or cooling sensation when applied. Use these to take your intimate experiences to a whole new dimension.

To use lube, simply apply a small amount to the desired area or object, directly to the skin, sex toys, or condoms. Add more or reapply if needed, as the lubrication may wear off over time. If you're new to using it, it's a good idea to do a patch test on a small area of skin to check for any adverse reactions, allergies or sensitivities you may have to certain ingredients, and always read the manufacturer's instructions and recommendations.

By Sephora UK Editorial Team

Writers and experts

Updated: 10 January 2024